July thought #8

A Highlight from my day:  An afternoon doze in the back porch hammock while it rains..




Big Day

Dropped my oldest off at college today.  Truly anticlimactic as we literally drove to the front of the dorm, an army of move-in team kids unloaded the truck and carried everything to the dorm room.  I got a hug & kiss through the truck window and we were off.  I wasn’t really expecting anything big but a lingering hug would have been nice.  The strangest thing was updating the contact information for a child and  putting in an address that isn’t where I live.

I am so excited for this next chapter in all of our lives.  We done all we can and now its time for the fledgling to soar. The next 9 months will see tremendous growth and change in all of us and I can’t wait.  Embrace the change and see where it takes us..

Being Stubborn & unwelcoming

  • Not wanting to listen to off color, racist and/or demeaning jokes
  • Finding the discussion of dirty underwear distasteful. Especially when the part consisted of those friends and family that attended the HS graduation
  • Finding it horrible that your daughter didn’t like getting pinched at the point shoulder meets the neck with a comment that the boys, meaning her cousins,  say this hurts.

According to the matriarch,  any of the above means I’m being unwelcoming.

Finding offensive the questioning of the workings of a job I’ve had 20+ years, that they can’t possibly be doing it that way or the Sunday traffic flows of a town I’ve lived in for 25+ years means I’m pig-headed, stubborn and unwilling to compromise just like matriarch’s spouse.  I know it sounds petty but when the entire weekend was these same kind of “attacks” , I’ve had enough.  It’s really no wonder why I only last 2 days in their company.

Truly family is a blessing but there are times when glad they are over a 1000 miles away.  But after the graduation weekend something is now permanently broken.  I’m not going to keep having the same conversation I’ve been having since I was 13 about this man she has brought into the family.  And I’m going to be certain my daughter is not put in an offensive physical situation in her home again.


It is ok to do what is right for you.  By making sure you are ok you are taking care of you & your immediate family.